No man is born a gentleman, so how can he remember gentlemanly tips on a date? Politeness, manners, chivalry, respect and honor are taught. You can learn these principles through your family, experience, or you can read about them.
Have an upcoming date? Here are some tips to keep in mind. Been dating awhile? It’s never too late to start.
50 Gentlemanly Tips To Remember On A Date
Make plans with her a few days in advance
Get reservations or tickets beforehand
Be punctual
If meeting her at the venue, get up and greet her
If picking her up, open the door for her
Offer to carry her bags
It’s ok to kiss her on the cheek when greeting her
Help her take her jacket off
Give her the best seat
Pull out her chair
Turn off your cell phone
Maintain good (not creepy) eye contact
Escort her when walking
Offer your jacket if it’s cold
Walk beside her closest to the street
Be a good listener
Don’t interrupt
Be humble
Don’t gossip
She doesn’t need your advice unless she asks for it
Wait to sit until she’s seated
Inside, escort her on your left arm
When leaving a room, walk through the door first
Don’t overdrink
Use that napkin. Put it in your lap
Don’t talk with food in your mouth
If it’s raining, offer her your umbrella
Pay for dinner
Don’t make her wait. Call her first
Prioritize returning her calls or texts
Get her home at a decent time
Don’t overstay your welcome
Be polite to the waiter/waitress
Compliment her
Offer your hand when she exits the car
Dress appropriate to the date
Take a shower fellow hipster (shampoo too)
Take off your hat indoors
If she drops something, be the first to pick it up
Exhibit self-control
Don’t cuss
Apologize if it’s your fault
Never leave her alone outside
Don’t smoke unless she does too
Bring flowers, not carnations
Be genuine
Don’t walk too fast if she’s in heels
Don’t be sexist
Don’t cut in line
Don’t stare at other women
Coming from Missouri, I was raised with Midwestern values, but it wasn’t until I began dating a Southern girl that I discovered more specific ettiquette (mostly from her mom). Curious, I read Cecil B. Hartley’s book, The Gentleman’s Book of Etiquette.
You might not be dating a Southern girl, so gauge what your girl values.
And don’t be too legalistic about fulfilling every one. As Cecil also wrote, “To make your politeness part of yourself, inseparable from every action, is the height of gentlemanly elegance and finish of manner.”
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